Kallee and the way we argue

Have you ever met a pigheaded or stubborn or gonna do want she thinks is right kind of girl? Of course you have. She is your wife, sister, girlfriend, mother, or in my case right now, my daughter Kallee.

Kallee is fun loving, happy, likes to be around you kind of girl. That is until you try and make her do something she does not want to do. Then she changes right before your eyes.

This weekend we had “one of those” first arguments of many many to come. See, Kallee dropped all of her pancakes on the carpet. This is when my wife and asked Kallee to clean it up. This is the critical moment, Kallee looked down and then walked away. That is when Daddy and Kallee had the “incident”. Fifteen minutes of crying and fighting and stubbornness on both sides.

Finally it was decided that Kallee would go crying upstairs and had to spend time-out in her room, while I cleaned it up. Kallee then got Alison to go upstairs and rescue her. Kallee of course walk straight over and wanted a hug from daddy. I love that part.. how easily she forgives, and gets angry again and back to happy.

Tonight Kallee helped me clean up her messes and loved every minute. Just like that Kallee became very helpful. It will always be with Kallee the struggle of “who is in charge”. Mostly we love when she is in charge, but sometimes it is better when the parents “steer” the child in the right direction.

Kallee’s language and sentence structure is getting larger and more complex. She is using more words and starting to talk in sentences. As a person who loves to talk in body language, I have always understood both of my kids as they tell the story with their eyes and face and body and definitely their hands. So I know how and why the verbal part of the communication always comes around slower than most children, but that is not a lack of intelligence, rather an ability to communicate without words, which shows higher level thinking skills.

As our communication between us grows Kallee and I may have more disagreements, but in the end there will always be that “I love you” hug at the end… and that is what makes the difference.